I'm going on a cruise with a guy I've been dating for only two weeks. How's it going to go? How am I supposed to act? Do I check out other options aboard?
SS Confused
Dear SS Confused,
Ah, the open seas. Sunshine. Cocktails. Pools with tanned bodies lying about. I'm jealous.
The main thing to do BEFORE the cruise is to have an open and frank discussion about these issues with your date before the cruise. There will be plenty of opportunities for romance, but you need to know if that is supposed to be given to just the person you're going with or is it really just a date cruise, where no commitment is expected?
If you both decide it's "just a date", one of you is lying. A cruise is a big deal. A week with another person in the same cabin is a big deal. There is just no way to get around the envy and jealously that will explode if you are not 100% completely honest with the ground rules.
Be specific and be sure to cover...
- Does the other person expect you to be with them 24/7? Do you want to be?
- Do you have "date days" and "play days"? What are they? What are the limits?
- What about sleeping together? Yes, no or multiple choice?
The more honesty you show, the more fun you will have. If one or the other is paying the entire way, then these questions go out the door. You can be assured that, despite what is said, the one paying expects a monogamous experience aboard ship. If you don't feel the same way, pass on the trip. Or, offer to pay your half.
Good luck. If it doesn't work out, I'm available for cruising anytime!
Best,
Dr. Reece
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